"Comfort is not a goal that I seek, rather it is a place that I hide." --Craig D. Lounsbrough Routine and monotony provides us stability and predictability. It makes us feel safe, protected, and comfortable. Comfort is nice, but it can be a huge impediment to our
“I’ve been letting other people decide who I am. I am who I am because of someone else. That sucks. It’s not my happiness, but someone else’s." This quote is from a client who realized almost everyone else was determining her value and worth. The idea
“It’s been so long since I had someone who would really listen to me.” I find a lot of people struggle with the challenge of listening, especially if the topic is emotional or deeply personal. Here are some reasons it is hard. 1. Pressure. We feel pressure
Why can’t we help some people? These people can be our own children, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or family. We think we do everything right, bend over backwards, go out of our way to meet them where they are. We are desperate for them to succeed,
“It seems sometimes that all people see are the grades.” That’s what a young client said to me one Friday afternoon. I was struck by the gravity of that statement and his recognition of being overlooked as a person. In short, he didn’t feel he
“Put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your child.” If we don’t take care of ourselves first, we have little to offer to those around us. There are times and circumstances this affects us all. HALT stands for hungry, angry, lonely and tired—our
A friend recently complained about their anger. I asked them if they wanted to do something about it. Surprisingly, they said, “No.” It made me think about behaviors and why we cling to even those that are counterproductive and irrational. It occurred to me that if that
"All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work." -- Calvin Coolidge I said it. My hope is that we are all doing something that is a little hard. A life of ease breeds a desire for
