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April 5, 2020It IS okay
“Often it takes some calamity to make us live in the present. Then suddenly we wake up and see all the mistakes we have made.” —Bill Watterson, cartoonist and creator of Calvin and Hobbes
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March 20, 2020Uncertainty
“Adversity introduces men and women to themselves.” —Albert Einstein Uncertainty is synonymous with anxiety. Fear of the unknown is one of the greatest sources of anxiety. We can drive
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July 18, 2019“No” means “Yes”
We get beat down and overwhelmed by life and all the things we “need” to do. We often do a horrible job not doing and being to everything and everyone. We forget there are consequences to a life w
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May 31, 2019Just a few words
“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have e
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February 25, 2019Vulnerability
“The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds.”— Will Durant This isn’t an easy 3-step idea. This is more about consider
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January 22, 2019Eliminate the Variables
“Treat frets like mosquitoes. Do you procrastinate when a bloodsucking bug lights on your skin? ‘I’ll take care of it in a moment.’ Of course not! You give the critter the slap it deserves. Be
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January 6, 2019They’re listening
Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have ener
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December 16, 2018Be Curious
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” ― David W. Augsburger Many clients have asked how to better connect with their kids and s
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November 5, 2018Comfortable?
“Comfort is not a goal that I seek, rather it is a place that I hide.” —Craig D. Lounsbrough Routine and monotony provides us stability and predictability. It makes us feel
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September 18, 2018Anagnorisis
“I’ve been letting other people decide who I am. I am who I am because of someone else. That sucks. It’s not my happiness, but someone else’s.” This quote is from a client who r
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August 14, 2018Rules for listening
“It’s been so long since I had someone who would really listen to me.” I find a lot of people struggle with the challenge of listening, especially if the topic is emotional or deeply personal. H
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July 22, 2018Making Contact
“As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of cou
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June 30, 2018Exalting in monotony
Why can’t we help some people? These people can be our own children, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or family. We think we do everything right, bend over backwards, go out of our way to meet them w
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June 10, 2018The past lives in the present
“We repeat what we don’t repair” — Christine Langley-Obaugh There are a million things that could upset or bother us on any given day — but they don’t. There are
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May 29, 2018A Smattering of Mattering
“It seems sometimes that all people see are the grades.” That’s what a young client said to me one Friday afternoon. I was struck by the gravity of that statement and his recognition of being
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April 8, 2018The Baggage
“Time doesn’t erase the demons you don’t see.” —Oblivion by Shinedown An adolescent complained to me recently how unfair their teacher was, especially in terms of expectations. I
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March 26, 2018Threats to survival
A friend recently complained about their anger. I asked them if they wanted to do something about it. Surprisingly, they said, “No.” It made me think about behaviors and why we cling to even t
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December 8, 2017…some dance to forget.
“Some dance to remember, some dance to forget.” The Eagles, Hotel California This line caught my attention this week as I listened to the song. It is a poignant reminder about human behav
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October 2, 2017I hope it’s not easy for you
“All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work.” — Calvin Coolidge I said it. My hope is that we
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September 3, 2017The relationship with yourself
“Without reflections, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.” — Margaret J. Wheatley
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August 27, 2017Know Thyself
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi How well do you know you? This isn’t about those things we are aware of. This is about those things everyone else kn
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August 13, 2017Words Matter
What do you say to yourself? We often say things to ourselves we would never say to anyone else. We can be downright mean. As I meet with clients, I hear comments like: “I’m not a good person.”
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August 13, 2017Get out of your head
We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.–Seneca We all have tons of things rattling around inside our heads all the time. These include: I
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August 12, 2017Rattlesnakes and Turtles
Many say there is less shame in the world these days. I would say the opposite is true—there is an abundance of shame. This drives many of the negative behaviors we see in our others, our childr
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